We’ve all seen those posts. The ones that say something like, “I’M POSTING THIS TO LET PEOPLE KNOW THAT SOMEONE IS ALWAYS LISTENING” or “WILL YOU POST THIS FOR AN HOUR TO LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU ARE THERE FOR THEM?” and a host of others.
Yeah, they sound great. Lovely.
But what about when people actually need help? How come many of these same people are nowhere to be found?
I’ve recently seen my friends on social media complain about this a lot and for good reason. After all, this is being posted, correct? So I don’t see it as being unreasonable that someone may be a bit perturbed that a person doesn’t follow through, especially on that very post in which they’re trying to manipulate someone into copying, pasting and sharing something the way they were.
People often say that folks seem to have no problem arguing politics, but are totally absent when it comes to anything else. In so many cases, the “political” argument is the very first time we hear from certain people.
Ironically, I’ve personally noticed that the same people who post their excessive and laughable displeasure about the NFL players taking a knee, or pretty much any time someone who isn’t a white male does just about anything that rocks the boat, post this kind of stuff. So in one breath they are calling women, “cunt, bitch, whore,” saying that people of color are “thugs and criminals” and need to “leave the country and go back where they came from” or that they are “terrorists” and you know the rest.
So truly, can you really see someone like that actually following through with “being there for” someone just because they say it? Is it that much of a surprise when they are not?
Of course, it doesn’t always have to be exactly the way I described. Race, religion and gender may not have anything to do with it. We know there are a LOT of equal opportunity assholes out there. Those were just specific examples that I noticed.
So why do people do this? Why do they rush to copy/paste/share that post to say that they will be there for you, while they hardly ever are?
I personally don’t like to accuse people as a whole of being “fakers” on social media. Sometimes it can be lazy to just assume that everyone is putting on some façade about his or her lives, when it could very much be reality. That’s right; a person talking about being happy, get this…MIGHT ACTUALLY BE HAPPY. And no…showing off to YOU isn’t the least bit a concern of theirs.
However, that may very well be what it is here…fakers.
I’m not talking rocket science here, so this won’t be long. Just the simple fact that they want to convey themselves as those who care so much about everyone when they simply do not. That’s all there is to it.
Yes, I know all about the Facebook algorithm. I know how some posts appear before others. I know it’s possible that one may not have seen it. But I’m also not stupid and I’m not even going to pretend to be.
I’ve noticed it is either politics, gender, religion, or other social issues in which people who barely speak to you, if ever, finally decide to say something and usually it is to argue. That is by coincidence. That is precisely what they want to do. They don’t care about your successes, your failures or your problems, despite those copy/paste posts that express otherwise. They get absolutely nothing out of you speaking about concerning issues and it’s easy to pretend one didn’t see it.
Coincidence that the stuff leading to arguments is somehow more often seen?
I think not.
I can count on one hand that person who truly proves that they are there for people and actually talk to them when they are going through trouble with something. Most others, it’s for no reason other than show. That’s a victory to the manipulators out there, the ones who succeed in making you feel guilty with that post about cancer, God, sick children, suicide and all that. Those who end up posting that stuff couldn’t care less. But the creators found a way to word the post to get those who don’t care to do it.
Before you reply to say that I’m wrong for assuming you don’t care, well…if you care, then this wouldn’t apply to you, correct? So…chill. If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t put it on.
But when I see the number of friends who have spoken up about their “friends” only talking to them to argue or not being there when needed, again, I’m not going to play stupid to believe that it is always that someone happens to not see the post.
These days, if there is not some instant gratification for the person involved, they couldn’t care less, no matter how many times they copy, paste and share something that says they do. They’ve proven that they don’t. You could call them or message them directly and they would find some way to weasel out of it.
That’s the main reason I don’t buy into that nonsense. And yes, I call it nonsense. If it’s something you post, more power to you, but it won’t change my opinion. This is the main reason that I prefer people speak from the heart. I find those people to be more genuine and have most often been the ones who actually are there for people when they need them.
However, just remember this…a copy/paste/share job is easy and quick. That’s the main reason a lot of people do it. They want to make it look as though they care, but in the most convenient way possible.
So it should be no surprise that they aren’t there when you need them. It was already enough of a chore for them to do the copy/paste/share job. To actually be there for an extended period of time for someone?
It’s because they simply don’t want to be.