A few weeks ago, I wrote an open letter to Mrs. Hillary Clinton on here in which I thanked her for being an inspiration to women and girls everywhere, but most importantly in my own life, for potentially being one to my daughter, Bianca, who will be nine years old next month. If you’re curious to what that letters states, it is the blog post immediately before this one.
This is, by far, my most popular blog post to date and with the election less than one week away (close to one month away at the time I wrote the letter), it’s not a huge surprise.
I have received a LOT of positive responses to my letter, to include women AND men who have said it has brought them to tears. In the letter, I spoke about our daughter and a medical condition she suffered when she was born in which surgery had to be performed on her head when she reached the age of 7 months. Of all the feedback I received, again, most of it has been positive.
There are a few who support Mr. Donald Trump and while they made it clear that they didn’t agree with my choice of candidate, they still appreciated me speaking about my love for my daughter and that they felt it was still an extremely moving letter to them as well. It’s because of folks like that, despite the fact that we are not voting the same, who cause me to preface this by saying that this is in NO way to speak about ALL of those who support and will be voting for Donald Trump. As with anything in life, a few bad apples should never represent an entire group of people.
And now to the good stuff. Despite the thousands of positive replies I received to my letter, there were several negative ones as well, largely from, you guessed it…Trump supporters. If that is you, and you had a problem with or did not like that letter, I am writing this to make something perfectly clear to you…
I AM NOT GOING AWAY. NEITHER IS ANYONE ELSE WHO SUPPORTS HILLARY CLINTON. DEAL WITH IT.
While I can’t speak for everyone else, the replies I’ve received have been comical to say the least. As I am a black man, let’s start there. Now as much as I wish that many of you could be mature enough to simply state that you don’t agree and to keep it moving, oh…that would require maturity, wouldn’t it? Something many of you have made it clear that you do NOT possess.
Disagreeing is one thing. Two major party candidates and 300+ million people in the country. Surely everyone will NOT be voting the same. That should not surprise anyone. But how some folks are handling that is quite embarrassing.
But back to you Trump supporters who have attacked me because of this letter. Again, disagreeing is fine…
…but why the racial stereotypes?
Oh yes…you gotta have those. Especially on social media. Even though my letter in no way references race, it doesn’t take long before some spineless coward on social media, when disagreeing with something a black man or woman says has to resort to the tired, outdated and hell, even inaccurate racial stereotypes. And it was no different here.
The typical response I’ve seen on both sides is that people who aren’t voting the same are some form of “stupid.” Let’s make something clear once and for all. Who a person chooses to vote for does NOT speak to intelligence. That is about the lamest response anyone can give. It speaks to a lot, but not how smart someone is. That just doesn’t make sense. We used “stupid” when we were in grade school, when a kid took our ball at recess. Even then, “stupid” wasn’t an appropriate response. The kids were maybe mean, rude, didn’t have manners, etc., but in no way did it speak to how intelligent they were.
It’s the same here. It’s a shame that something we said in grade school as a retort is what grown adults, 30, 40 and 50 years old are using and for what reason? Because we’re not voting for the same candidate? Have you not grown since elementary school? I turned 37 a few months ago. Surely you have something a little stronger than “stupid” when you don’t agree with me, correct? It’s one thing if it’s the word I use on you. But when I don’t even address you, how is this the first term that comes to mind?
But back to me and these racial stereotypes. Excuse me while I laugh for a second.
So, you don’t agree that I’ll be voting for Hillary Clinton. I’ve received replies to state that I am “thug,” that I’m on food stamps, welfare, that I “hate white people” (um…Hillary Clinton is…?), and as I have on my social media profiles that I am in the Army (19 years), I’ve also been accused of faking that as well.
Speaking of “faking,” I’ve received several responses to say it was a “fake” letter, that it didn’t really happen, or that I’m “getting paid by the Clintons.”
Give me a second. Laughing again.
Trump supporters…lashing out at me like with baseless responses that you can’t even come close to proving makes YOU the foolish one. Not me. And yes, YOU are the one who has to prove it.
I know how conspiracies work. People come up with the silliest nonsense and expect others to disprove it; otherwise, they claim it to be true. That’s like me saying that Bigfoot was in my backyard last night. Since none of you can prove Bigfoot was NOT there, that obviously means it did happen, correct? That’s how some of you sound whenever you come at me with this nonsense. The burden of proof is on YOU, not me.
So I’m a “thug,” huh? What exactly makes me a “thug”? Look up the definition and connect that directly to MY life. Take your time.
Food stamps? I’ve never been on those as an adult. Again, you spit it out…prove it.
Welfare? Same thing. Where’s the proof? I don’t mean statistics, but even if that’s what you’re using, guess what? There are far more white people on welfare than blacks. Just thought I’d help you out with that one. You’re welcome.
I hate white people? As I’m thanking a potential white presidential candidate for possibly being an inspiration to my little girl, someone I obviously love more than anything else. You’re right; the excessive hate I have for white people is just so grossly evident here.
I am “not really in the Army”? Is that so? Well someone better tell the Army to stop paying me as they’ve been doing for all these years.
Seriously, these are all weak and clearly, all many of you have. And here’s a news flash for you…
I’VE HEARD THEM ALL BEFORE.
That’s what makes this funny. When you all respond to me with these, I can imagine you are beating your chests and saying to yourself, “Yeah! I really told him!” as if you’re the first ones to ever say this stuff.
Not even close. I am 37, remember? Since you don’t have the intelligence to NOT say things like this in the first place, I’m not putting a lot of money on you being able to come up with something I hadn’t already heard before, MANY times. You may as well call me a doo-doo head.
When none of this stuff applies to me, it’s a little hard to be insulted by it. Just so you know. You can repeat it over and over again (as many of you have, even in the SAME conversation, often back-to-back) and it won’t matter.
Do you understand this?
Not to mention, what does any of that have to do with my choice of candidate? How are these related in any way? Take your time on that one also.
Now, before any of you try and claim that this has nothing to do with race, stop. Seriously, just stop. Those of you who have been the quickest to use these have actually talked to me the LEAST. So you don’t know me as a person…which means, what leads you to pick racial stereotypes as your go-to move?
As if we didn’t know. When the only REAL aspect about me that you are positive of is that I’m black, it’s not rocket science, people.
Speaking of which, I’ve even gotten “nigger” a few times as well. Of course. But that ranks right up there with the rest. I guess you figure I hadn’t heard that one before, either.
The funniest part of all this is what the accounts (mainly on Twitter, as that’s where most of the replies have come from) look like. There are MANY of you who have accounts that were JUST created within the past day or so to maybe a week ago at the most. That “egg” is still your profile pic. You have generic screen names with “Deplorable” somewhere in them. If you DO have a profile picture up, it’s some random picture pulled off the internet. So you don’t even have the boldness to use YOUR real picture and/or real name, and you think I’M supposed to be intimidated by you in some way?
I’ve asked more than once that you “mature” individuals prove this stuff that you say about me and guess what? Either you deflect, change the subject, or just repeat yourselves. Even more hilarious are the ones who accuse me of using a fake name in a fake profile, as you have the screen name of “DEPLORABLE123456789″ and a picture of He-Man as your profile pic.
Hmm…”DEPLORABLE123456789.” Show me on your birth certificate where THAT is written.
Another funny aspect is when some of you troll on Hillary Clinton’s page and I see responses like, “YOU NEED TO STOP POSTING THIS.”
So, you’re trolling on the page of someone you don’t support and you think you can dictate to ME what I can and can’t post there?
Are you on drugs?
The reply I often get is, “When you post an open letter like this, you need to have thick skin for those of us who think it’s stupid” as if I’m just sitting in the fetal position in some random corner of my house because someone said something I didn’t like. Please. Opinions are one thing, but many of you don’t post opinions alone. Again, you try and dictate what I can and can’t do.
Wrong answer. Not happening with me. Ever.
Yeah, I know. I’m a lousy father, I’m stupid, I’m not in the Army, I’m on welfare, blah blah blah. Got anything new? Because these are played out.
No? Nothing original? So all that was supposed to make me just “go away,” huh?
So sorry for you. Because neither I, nor anyone else who supports Mrs. Clinton, is going ANYWHERE, ANY TIME SOON. You can dig as “deep” in your little “arsenal” as you choose for “insults” as if we’re supposed to just shut up once you drop them on us, but once you do that, guess what? We’re still here and will continue to be.
You can bully us as much as you want. I’ll say again…HEARD IT ALL BEFORE. You’re not in control of anyone who chooses to support Hillary Clinton and you damn sure aren’t in control of me.
So for those of you who are tired of seeing that letter, here’s a word of advice:
Stop looking at it. Be big boys and girls and move on if you don’t like something. But in thinking that I’m supposed to just “stop” because YOU don’t want to see it, well…I’m not sure who gave you the impression that you are that important or that I was asking for your permission. Because you’re not and I wasn’t.
Oh look…it’s time for me to post it again, along with this one as well. See y’all there.
I’m a Trump supporter and did not read your letter and I do tweet negative stuff about Hillary I can’t stand her but, you have every right to thank her and solders that died for this country gave you that right. I would never vote for her but the office is the highest in the Land and I respect it. Also, thank you for your service.
Listen my brotha, im a white man who has dated black women and its very unfortunate we have to deal with that shit in the flesh & through social media yet C’MON man you know how heated topics go south QUICK when coming to a vital subject.. let’s go for the throat of action of FINALLY getting shit done for this country cause in the end my man, it’s not just about you, me, him, her ect IT’S ABOUT THE BIG PICTURE OF TURNING THE BS AROUND IN OUR COUNTRY.. we gotta judge the best option best fir to run our country.. im an independent and i voted for obama not just once TWICE.. bro im sick of giving TERM AFTER TERM AFTER TERM a vote just so they can go in circles.. im fkn sick of these corrupted fks & and thier tied in cksukers of polluted pool.. trump gets in he gets in clean man, he’s not tied in to inner-cabinet pukes (both sides of aisles) of owing a fkn favor, barricades to lead.. he gets in ALL OPEN RD FOR THIS MAN TO LEAD.. now as for on street supporters dangers.. cmon man wake up its of COURSE a gamble shit might go down.. its idiots doing stupid violence (goes for both sides of supporters who get STUPID) don’t clusterfk around here man.. gotta wake up my man THINK BIG PICTURE. in the end were ALL EQUAL.. FK THE HATERS… LETS US (AMERICAN AVERAGE VOICE TAKE THE WHEEL)
I’m speechless. I feel compelled to apologize for the terrible responses you received after sharing such an inspiring letter. This election has brought out the worse in far too many people….frankly, it is my personal opinion that Trump has inferred “permission” for people to be divisive, bullies, and more. However, no matter who wins the election, we all still have to live with each other on November 9th.
Keep doing you. And thank you so much for your service.
Mr. People, Trump has stirred up so much hate and fear. In fact FEAR has been his number one campaign tactic. Fear makes people so irrational that they resort to middle school behaviors and language- just like Trump has done this entire campaign.
This election has stripped away the veneer of tolerance that some people cultivated, and now they have been given permission (by Trump) to show the true faces beneath that veneer. I can’t wait for this election to be over with, however there are friends, and people in my family that I will never be able think of in a positive light again.
Mr. People thank you for your military service ( I was an Air Force Brat until I was twenty), and my heart is so very happy that your daughter’s health and future have been restored. Keep on writing!!
I loved this article and as a musician/freelance writer with a blog on WordPress I too have felt compelled to speak my truth and my support of Hillary Clinton…and my extreme opposition to Donald “#Drumpf” Trump (who I still call Drumpf as his mocking of others family names (Jon Stewart) and general vitriol towards anyone different than he is, makes me want to give him some of his own medicine…and the hashtag fits in with his Twitter obsessed mentality.)
No matter if I get just 1 view really enjoy writing almost as a journal, working through the most important and bizarre election we’ve ever had. I’m really glad your message got some eyes on it and the whole situation makes me proud of you as a fellow lib/Dem and empathetic human being.
Man this guy has made me embarrassed to be a Caucasian male some days. Their excuse of BLM & “the blacks” are committing reverse racism shows their utter ignorance on the subject of race relations. As much as Obama’s historic two terms has moved the boulder a bit, we have a long way to go. My experience has always been human beings are human beings. My uncle married an Af/Am woman in the late ’80’s as a kid and we lived in Las Vegas. They moved to N.Las Vegas in a predominantly black neighborhood and when I visited the FIRST time I got a few looks, but playing outside awhile one neighbour came over, a nice lady who later I learned was my Aunt Irene’s friend, came and said hi and told me to play in her yard too, and later that year I met her son and knew the kids in the neighborhood from then on and years on. It was great. No bullshit, people being people.
Not trying to do the white “Hey, I have a black friend” deal, just trying to get across when people treat each other with respect chances are great they’ll get along. Criminals are criminals and far too often an African American who commits a crime is seen as representative of the entire race which is horseshit.
The human race is the race we need to be focused on and if #Drumpf gets elected (and most pundits & polls show it being impossible but I don’t want us to take anything for granted), we will go backwards rather than forwards to that end. The sad thing is #Drumpf’s movement and the Alt. Right Tea Baggers who found their messiah in him will make it difficult on the country even if he loses. Starting a new TV service that caters to that bullshit has been exposed as his plan win or lose, so as tired and exhausted our country is with this election, this may just be the beginning.
Thanks man, I just wanted to let you know you’re teaching and reaching people, and it’s appreciated. Great stuff.
Be cool… Johnny Spade
Very well written! I too have been attacked for my choice of candidate and called some of the same things as you . Some people are just mean and that reflects on who they are. Your response to it reflects admirably on who you are ! Thank you very much for your service and please share a smile with your daughter for me!
Hi! What a powerful piece! I’m an editor at The Huffington Post. We’d love to share your post on our site as well, if you’re interested. You can reach me at hayley [dot] miller [at] huffingtonpost [dot] com. Hope to hear from you!
Please forgive my lateness on this, as I know that now I have FAR missed the time for it. I would have loved to let you share this on your site as I’ve once contacted someone a while back in hopes of writing for you. I will send this to your e-mail as well. I know this post can’t be used now, but I must have missed it with so many other messages and comments having coming in on this post and the post this refers to. Thanks so much for reaching out!
We are on opposite sides politically but I had to comment and say thanks for the post, especially the “doo doo head” comment, totally cracked me up! It’s terrible to see the hateful comments but good for you for rising above.
I love your letter and as a father of two daughters i raised them to work hard and that they are equal to any boy.
I believe you have good intentions for your daughter to think and believe the same thing .
I also believe that as she grows up you should point out both candidates faults and point them out with out a biased opinion for either of them .
This includes pointing out that Mrs Clinton lied to the american people, and Congress. That she committed fraud and made money from her position as secretary of state that as a government position is against the law.
That her candidacy is one that you should not condone as the best woman role model and perhaps looking for a better role model like Justice O’ Conner, Ann Richards (Governor of Texas),Mrs Albright (First Female Secretary of State just to mention a few that a certainly better role models.
That was beautiful. But unfortunately I don’t think it will change anyone’s mind. The Internet has allowed people like that to sit safe in front of their computer screens and say these things. Most of them are probably too afraid to say it to you in person. That’s why people like Trump need to be stopped. He’s taken insults and name calling main stream. Every day on the news I hear the same thing: “Trump called someone this or that”. And unfortunately even if he is soundly defeated (which I really hope he is) I don’t think he’ll go away. Sadly there are too many people like him and like the people who attacked you. But in you I see hope. Hope for humanity and Americans that there are good people in the world and in the US. Please continue to keep up the good work and spread your message all over planet Internet. And of course thank you so much for your service.
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Keep posting. Work to get Hillary Clinton elected as our President. Vote on Nov. 8, if haven’t already voted.
I’m so sorry for the criticism you have had to deal with for a letter so obviously written from the heart… That being said, I am a Trump supporter but above that I am a CHRISTIAN and I am truly saddened that HUMAN BEINGS are treating others with hate just because we have different views. This is Democracy people. Love and Blessings to ALL AMERICANS!!!
Dude, I’m a 56 year old Southern white woman and I have something to say. You are one hell of a strong individual. Thank you so much for all your years of service to our Country!
I am not here to support anyone. I’m just so sick of the negativeness, hate,and name calling. I’ve seen people lose LIFE LONG friends over this election. People blocking each other on FB is childish and that’s my opinion only. God Bless and good luck.
Thank you so much. Sorry to be just getting back to this.
I just read my comment and it’s got a typo that needs addressing. My autocorrect changed whatever I was typing and inserted the word “bitch” and that was absolutely not intended to be in my comment.
Just wanted to clarify.
Keep us posted on your case.
Wow, I’m so sorry that you & Little girl Were attacked. These people can’t be American. Because Americans don’t act like that. Trump divided us with his insults, cruelty, mocking, Racist remarks, , and the biggest thing he has done is not shown his taxes, & has not Paid taxes in 25yrs.
Legend. Love all of this. Keep it up. This is what the first amendment is all about.
We need to talk I have multiple sclerosis but have been affiliated with TV shows and movies as a medical and psychological consultant for about five years since I have MS I don’t get to do is bitch consulting is I would like to but I am working on a documentary about how messed up this election has been and how it’s fractured our country and it’s just hate. I loved your story and loved your letter and I think that you would be someone I would like to talk to. I’ll follow you on Twitter ❤️ I got your back!
Hi Dawn. Sorry that I’m just seeing this. Thank you. What’s your name on Twitter?